We have lived apart, and now he is in an assisted living facility, I live in a townhome. We have 3 grandchildren, one daughter, but we have not lived together in 30 years.
He drinks heavily, and our conversation is only 10-15 minutes, long, I do most of the talking. He appears to be bored, quiet, offering little to no conversation. I call most of the time to check on him at the facility where he lives in the suburbs.